How to forgive a cheating spouse?
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I can't say from experience, but I think there is a slight chance you could forgive your cheating husband or wife.
Couples who are struggling with infidelity need to both agree to go to marriage counseling.
They need to both want to work together at making their marriage work.
The cheater needs to show respect to the fact that you were deeply hurt by his/her actions and are not just going to magically get over it or dismiss it. He or she needs to give you the chance to vent and cry about it for some time without complaining that you need to "get over it."
He or she needs to willingly and happily give up the other relationship/s.
The healing process is a long one and the cheater needs to deal with the consequences of his/her actions respectfully.
Most importantly, the cheater needs to prove he/she wants to change and wants to make the marriage work.
He/she needs to do everything and anything to gain your trust back, and needs to understand the healing process takes time.
You can surely forgive your spouse, but if you do, harping on it, won't make things any better.
You need to accept the fact that this may happen again and if it does, will you be strong enough to handle it?
I would like to hear your input on this matter! Feel free to comment with feedback or opinions! How do you forgive someone you love that betrayed you in the worst way, do you forgive them? Can you forget?Do you try to make it work or do you just leave and never look back?
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Very true Emil! You should never turn outside of your marriage or relationship. Communication is one of the most important aspects in a relationship, if your unhappy, talk with your partnet and if your that unhappy leave before you get into another relationship. Thanks for the comment Emil!
I love your blogs....but....Easily spoken from those who have never commited to love & eventually lost it.
Thanks KyRktect! Yes, I agree. Both have to be in it together, if you can't commit, how could it ever work? Commitment is something some men fear as you wrote about in one of your hubs. I underrstand why some would lose the love...but why do they have to go cheat, why can't they just leave the relationship first, ya know?
From experience it is no easy way to forgive a cheating spouse especially when you put your all and invested alot into the relationship and the spouse just turn to another. It really make you feel that all that was done in the relationship was for nothing.
Tiffb It must be so hard, and very painful to go through. Honestly, I don't know how anyone could forgive and forget when someone turns outside of a marriage. or relationship. You put your all into it just to be slapped in the face. I think some can eventually forgive, but I can't imagine forgetting something like that, the memory is always there, and always in the back of your mind. I believe though, some can change, but they have to want to...and they have to prove they can be faithful again.
if your husband cheated on you at a strip club , would you forgive him or leave him
I would most definately leave him!
i am going through this right now. i am deployed to Iraq and just found out my wife has been cheating on me for a couple of months now. she is telling me that she was unhappy. i dont want to walk away. i love her and my step son so very much. i want to work this out. but i do not know what to do.
You should forgive her. I don't know her but if she told you she probably felt bad. And when you do something you regret your not gonna do it again. It kills you inside to know you put someone u love in so much pain and hurt. And all you think about is how bad you want to take it back. Some who cheat should be forgave. Only if they are truley sorry and you will know if they are truley sorry
emilclemons6757 3 years ago
I've been married for 13 years, I don't cheat nor do I plan on it. However, some of my friends now divorced have first hand experience of what it feels like, the betrayal, the guilt, humiliation, shame, and sleepless nights.
Once you cheat you can never take back what has been done! I suggest, not to do it in the first place.
If you want excitement you should find ways to create it with your spouse, no matter how long you have been together!